I'm 20, he's 21. He's always been the perfect gentleman, and treats me (and women in general) with the utmost care and respect. We've been close friends for a year, and I trust him a lot - he's always there to listen, always there to lend a hand, always there to offer advice, always there to encourage me - I know he wants the best for me. We've never had more than a friendship - there's never been anything physical at all between us. I've never felt anything more for him, and as far as I knew, he's never felt anything for me. Recently, he said something that really caught me off guard. He told me he was feeling things for me that he had to constantly suppress. He told me that he's known me for a long time, and come to love who I am - that I possess all the qualities he'd love in a wife. Then he added that the way I look is the icing on the cake. He apologised before continuing, saying that he knew it was not appropriate to reveal any more than that .. but he admitted that because of everything - my personality, character and looks - he was beginning to feel things that made him want me as his wife. He said he fought to keep his feelings under control, but that he was beginning to lose it and that he had to constantly force himself to stop thinking about all that he had begun to want - he said he just couldn't control what was happening to his body. I find it hard not to label him as a jerk for wanting me that way. But is it really just lust? After all, it didn't start out that way. Is it normal for him to feel that way? Is he still a gentleman despite his feelings? Is he being a jerk, or is it something special? I assume that even in serious, genuine relationships guys get to the point where they begin to want you, right? Because who marries a woman they're not even attracted to in that way? I just didn't expect it. For a long time, we were friends and nothing more. Now he confesses that lately friendship has turned into deep desire? Now he confesses that within that gentleman exterior there's something raging inside? I was blushing as he explained what he felt for me! I just need a little help grasping/understanding it all. It hasn't sunk in yet and I don't know what to think of him.